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WEEKLY-HALACHA FOR 5761



SELECTED HALACHOS RELATING TO PARSHAS CHUKAS

By Rabbi Doniel Neustadt
Rav of Young Israel of Cleveland Heights

A discussion of contemporary Halachic topics.
For final rulings, consult your Rav.

CHASAN and KALLAH: THE SEVEN FESTIVE DAYS

For seven days after their wedding, the chasan and kallah continue to
joyously celebrate their marriage. Indeed, the seven days following a
wedding are considered like a "private Yom Tov" for the chasan and
kallah.(1) It is important that the young couple, along with their

families,

study the following laws and customs before the wedding so that they start
off their married life in accordance with the halachah.

THE OBLIGATION OF SIMCHAH
The chasan is obligated to spend time with his bride and make her happy

for

the entire seven festive days. [Even if the chasan or the kallah was
previously married, the couple is still obligated to perform the mitzvah

of

simchah for seven days. If, however, both the chasan and kallah were
previously married, then they are obligated to engage in the mitzvah of
simchah for only three days.(2)]
The chasan and kallah must eat their meals together.(3)
The chasan should limit his Torah study during this time, i.e., he should
not immerse himself in intricate texts but rather engage in less demanding
areas of study.(4) If the kallah does not mind, however, he may study
whatever he chooses.(5)
The chasan and kallah dress in their better clothing (bigdei kavod).(6)
It is a mitzvah for others to make the chasan and kallah happy and to

praise

them throughout the entire seven festive days.(7)
It is permitted for a chasan and kallah to visit the sick and to comfort
mourners during this time.(8)

WALKING ALONE

A chasan may not walk unaccompanied outside [in the street or in the
marketplace] during the seven festive days, and neither may a kallah.(9)

Two

reasons for this prohibition are given: 1) A chasan and kallah must be
carefully watched so that mazikim do not attack them(10); 2) It is not
befitting the honor of a chasan and kallah to walk out alone during their
first week of marriage. The following rules apply:
The prohibition applies even during the day(11) and even if there are many
people in the street.(12)
They are not to go out even to shul(13) or for the performance of any

other

mitzvah, unless that mitzvah must be fulfilled and no one else is

available

and they cannot go together.(14)
The chasan and kallah may go outside together even if they are not
accompanied by others.(15)
According to one opinion, the chasan or kallah should not even be alone
inside the house during these seven festive days; they must be accompanied
by at least one person at all times.(16)

WORK
The chasan and kallah(17) are prohibited from doing any work or engaging

in

any business for the entire seven days. This prohibition stands even if

the

kallah allows the chasan to work.

There are different opinions in the poskim regarding the type of "work"
that is prohibited. Some maintain that only work that entails tirchah

(toil)

or is very time-consuming (such as most labors which are prohibited on

Chol

ha-Moed) is prohibited.(18) Others, however, hold that even light

housework,

except for work entailed in food preparation, is prohibited.(19)

It is permitted, however, for the chasan and kallah to do any work or
engage in any business if otherwise they would incur a loss (meleches

davar

ha-aveid) and no one else can take care of it for them.(20)

A chasan and kallah may deposit their monetary gifts in the bank and may

go

shopping for household appliances and furniture.(21)

According to most poskim, a chasan and kallah are allowed to take a

haircut

during this time.(22)

SHEVA BERACHOS

Nowadays, it has become commonplace for a newlywed couple to be regaled at
at least one festive meal a day by their relatives and friends during the
first week of marriage. At such a festive meal, seven additional blessings
(Sheva Berachos) are recited after Birkas ha-Mazon is completed, provided
that several conditions, which will be enumerated in the next chapter, are
met.

It must be stressed, however, that while the basic concept of Sheva
Berachos is recorded in the Talmud(23) and codified in the Shulchan Aruch,
there is no obligation for a chasan and kallah to partake in this type of
meal. Indeed, in earlier times many communities did not celebrate Sheva
Berachos at all,(24) and some communities never even heard of it.(25) Some
poskim even question whether this type of meal is considered a seudas
mitzvah.(26) Accordingly, while it is recommended by some poskim(27) for

the

chasan and kallah to partake in Sheva Berachos(28) at least once a

day,(29)

and this has become the common practice,(30) it is by no means an
obligation.(31) If they so desire, they may eat by themselves or with

their

immediate family and no Sheva Berachos will be recited. When Sheva

Berachos

meals become a source of stress, strain or strife for the couple or their
families, they should be advised that such meals are absolutely not
required. Many people are not aware of this.

The seven festive days begin immediately after the chupah. There are three
possible timetables:
If the chupah takes place at night, that night and the day after are
considered day one, followed by another six nights and days.
If the chupah takes place by day (any time before sunset), then that day

is

considered day one, and that night plus the next day is considered day

two.

This is so even if the yichud and the actual meal took place entirely at
night.(32)
If the chupah took place after sunset but was completely over before the
stars came out (during bein ha-shemashos) some poskim consider that day as
day one(33) while others hold that the first day begins only that

night.(34)

On the seventh day of the seven festive days, Sheva Berachos should be
recited before sunset.(35) If that cannot be arranged, some poskim allow
reciting Sheva Berachos up to forty minutes past sunset [in the United
States],(36) while many other poskim are stringent and do not allow

reciting

any one of the blessings even one minute after sunset.(37)

FOOTNOTES:

1 While shivas yemei ha-mishteh is a Rabbinic obligation (Rambam, Hilchos
Ishus 10:12), see Rambam, Hilchos Aveil 5:1 that it was originally enacted
by Moshe Rabbeinu. See also Rashi and Ramban, Bereishis 29:27.

2 Chelkas Mechokek 64:4.

3 While it is permitted for the kallah to be mochel and allow the chasan

to

spend time or eat by himself during the seven festive days (Rama E.H.

64:2),

it is not recommended and it is not customary that she do so (Chupas
Chasanim 14:2).

4 Chida in Shiyurei Berachah E.H. 64.

5 Tzitz Eliezer 12:73.

6 Pirkei d'Rav Eliezer 16, quoted by Aruch ha-Shulchan E.H. 64:3.

7 Pirkei d'Rav Eliezer 16; Yalkut Shimoni, Shoftim 70.

8 B'tzeil ha-Chochmah 2:44.

9 While Shulchan Aruch mentions this prohibition only for the chasan,

Aruch

ha-Shulchan, based on the Talmud, includes the kallah as well.

10 Berachos 54b. Mazikim are supernatural forces which are controlled by

the

Satan.

11 Radal on Pirkei d'Rav Eliezer 16.

12 Harav Y.S. Elyashiv (Beis Chasanim 17). The Sephardim, however, permit
going out during the day when there are people on the street.

13 Beis Shemuel E.H. 64:2, quoting the Perishah.

14 Rav Yaakov Emdin (Migdal Oz, pg. 11).

15 Harav Y.S. Elyashiv (Beis Chasanim 17).

16 Aruch ha-Shulchan E.H. 64:3.

17 Shulchan Aruch mentions this prohibition only for the chasan, and some
poskim maintain that position (see Kisei Eliyahu 64:1; Maharsham 3:206).
Other poskim hold that the kallah is included in this prohibition as well
(Minchas Pitim 62).

18 She'elas Ya'avatz, vol. 2, 185.

19 Chida in Shiyurei Berachah E.H. 64 and Chayim Sha'al 2:38-60. Tzitz
Eliezer 11:85 and 12:73 quotes this view and prohibits even writing,

unless

he is writing Torah thoughts. Harav Y. Kamenetsky is quoted as orally
instructing a chasan not to carry a heavy suitcase up the stairs (Emes
l'Yaakov E.H. 64:1).

20 Chazon Ish E.H. 64:7; Yabia Omer 4:8. Other poskim are more stringent.

21 Harav Y.S. Elyashiv (Beis Chasanim 14:12).

22 Yabia Omer 4:8 and 5:38.

23 Kesubos 7b, based on pesukim in Megillas Ruth.

24 Maharil (Hilchos Nissuin) quoted in Sova Semachos, pg. 12. See also

Aruch

ha-Shulchan O.C. 640:14, who writes that in his community no special meals
took place during shivas yemei ha-mishteh.

25 Teshuvos Chasam Sofer E.H. 122, regarding the community of Frankfurt.

In

later times, however, the custom changed even in Frankfurt (Harav Y.
Martzbach, quoted in Sova Semachos, ibid.). See also Beiur ha-Gra E.H.

55:11

and Pischei Teshuvah C.M. 7:13, quoting the Tumim.

26 Pri Megadim O.C. 444:9. See, however, Mishnah Berurah 640:34, who

clearly

considers this type of meal as a seudas mitzvah.

27 See Rav Pealim E.H. 4:6 and Yabia Omer 3:11.

28 Especially on Shabbos; Rav Yehudah ben Yakar (Perush ha-Berachos, Sheva
Berachos).

29 According to some early authorities, it was customary to do so twice a
day (Maseches Sofrim 11:11). The ninety-eight blessings gained according

to

this custom have the power to "sweeten" the ninety-eight curses recorded

in

the Tochachah in Parashas Ki Savo (Chidushei ha-Rim).

30 Among the Ashkenazim. Sephardim, however, generally celebrate a Sheva
Berachos only if the meal takes place at the home of the chasan and kallah
or their parents.

31 This custom does not have the binding power of a minhag which must be
upheld, since it is relatively new and is not based on any binding source.

32 This is the consensus of most poskim. Moreover, as long as the chupah
began before sunset, even if the blessings themselves were recited after
sunset, the day that the chupah began is considered day one.

33 Sova Semachos, pg. 13 quoting several poskim.

34 Pischei Teshuvah E.H. 64:12; Harav M. Feinstein (oral ruling quoted in
Oholei Yeshurun, pg. 25).

35 Sha'arei Teshuvah O.C. 188:7; Pischei Teshuvah E.H. 64:12 and many

other

poskim.

36 Harav M. Feinstein (oral ruling quoted in Oholei Yeshurun, pg. 25). See
also Sefer Bein ha-Shemashos 10:11 who allows b'diavad reciting the
blessings up to 17 minutes after sunset [in Eretz Yisrael].

37 Sova Semachos 1:3; Yabia Omer 5:7; Harav S.Z. Auerbach (Shemiras

Shabbos

K'hilchasah 59:18); Harav Y.S. Elyashiv (Beis Chasanim 7:13). [If the

chupah

took place during bein ha-shemashos, a rabbi should be consulted.]

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