Thank you all for your help.
Malcolm Austen:
I did ask for a [Claim] button - there is one somewhere else, on a pending membership IIRC - but it has never appeared.
Malcom, if you point me to your request I will support it, for what it's worth.
I think that a Claim button on pending messages is needed, not only for reasons of consistency with pending membership, but also because Edit and Claim are two different things and one does not necessarily imply the other.
Best,
Marina