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Re: The last hurdle (one person's last hurdle)

 

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Maybe I¡¯m misunderstanding you but I was saying that what Sue Elvia wrote in her book I found helpful - I was just trying to summarize it in a way so people could get the gist, but definitely intended for them to go and read it themselves. I wasn¡¯t intending for my summary to be helpful in and of itself - but sharing ?that I found her writing with the detailed working out of her process around it to be helpful. I apologize if I did not make it clear. And yes, I agree that the ¡°better way¡± is to not hold onto maths at all. Reading other peoples processes and regrets and working out of hurdles has been helpful for me, atleast.?

And as far as the personal hurdles we have ¡°bumped up against¡± that I gave as examples (per your request that people share just that) - i agree that parents need to do the work to be whole and present in order to have the best outcome for themselves and their kids. I was writing with the assumption that that was a ¡°given¡±. Awareness is the first step from my experience and healing is definitely our goal, journey, and process. So being aware of our own hurdles and why has been monumental in starting to unravel the tangle of our unique responses and then rewind it all up neatly in a better way.?

I feel pretty taken aback by your responses and I¡¯m wondering if I just completely misinterpreted your original email.?


On Aug 21, 2023, at 7:46 PM, Sandra Dodd <aelflaed@...> wrote:

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On Mon, Aug 21, 2023 at 04:02 PM, Marijah wrote:
I feel like what Sue Elvis shared in her books (she has two but I think it was ¡°curious unschoolers¡± - the other is ¡°radical unschool love¡±) helped me some around this area. She ¡°held on¡± to ¡°some of the basics¡± for a while and then later shifted (she had 7 children I believe? So shifted as they grew) and reevaluated her choices/regretted ¡°holding on¡± to the ¡°maths¡±.?

So...?

That's a bad example, someone who held on to math and regretted it.

It's like saying "If you follow this fork in the path, you'll come to brambles and a cliff."? So the better advice is NOT to hold on to math, or to some of the basics.

But how?? That's the question.? :-)? Knowing that some regret it can be helpful.? To anyone who benefits from stories of what people regret, here's a collection:

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Sandra

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(If this doesn't look like Sandra Dodd's e-mail, it is one.? "AElflaed" is my medieval-studies/SCA name.)
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