In my group I also have members who have been in it a long time or who I have known outside the group for a long time, but that is not the reason I do not moderate them. Perhaps in some groups it is necessary to moderate everyone because of the temperament of the individuals involved. It may be a blanket trait of people in that narrow field of the group. However, I have found that one should be more understanding and accommodating because the person that is causing some problem initially ends up being an outstanding member. You said "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle", but I would also add, be more tolerant and understanding. This is what is lacking in many groups, and in our society I believe. If someone makes an abrasive comment, abrasive to some but not all, the immediate reaction is to contact the list owner, in a private message, and get the person banned. I have a member in my discussion group who created problems in other groups. He became a member of my group and many individuals in private email wanted me to ban him. I ban no one. There are other ways to deal with a problem. In this case, I worked with him over a long time and he is now one of the best members I have with what he has to offer the group.
Stan
On 2/18/2018 1:39 PM, Cherrill wrote:
I agree with everything here Barb. Although my group is not moderated as we have been together a very long time.
Cherrill
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle
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