Thank-you for all the clarity. I am going to refer back to all of your posts in my times of weakness. I got into a very fear driven space for a while and now I have Vertigo which made everything worse. I might be coming out of it now somewhat but it is an effort to not get paralysed by fear.
I think I have made an effort not to let this situation affect the kids beyond it's obvious effects of having less. Vega's stealing I think may have reflected the situation. He seems to want more than the others and is relentless in his asking. I know a few times I finally responded to the nagging with "We cannot afford it."
He asks for things that we wouldn't buy anyway. I know he can feel less than abundant, especially having a friend who seems to have so much and is always doing a variety of classes. We are pretty busy too I think but last night he said he wants to stay up all night and sleep all day because he is bored during the day. It is hot, hot, hot, here in Vegas and the summers are really a challenge because you cannot do much outside. We do swim a lot but getting them in any sort of swim class did not pan out for them. The boys just seem to think classes, or the one's I find for them, are boring.
Oh, the kids are awake now and I haven't finishe the post. I'll have to respond later. I might have gotten a bit off topic.
Joanne
