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Things are getting betting. Maybe I could now get a laptop & freelance. I ‘d like to work again, but I’ve seen Chris Barkers face & he looks 10 years younger than me at least. At least we have the same faith in Jesus Christ. It’s been so tough recently
But is still tougher
 

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That’s good to read, John. ?We all have downs, but I realise that some downs are much further down than others. ?I’ve just read this story, which made me feel quite emotional about people who help others:


Yesterday my wife had a call from a chap who was our neighbour in Gamlingay. ?We’ve known him and his partner since about 2004 but he said that she had been assaulting him recently – I think that she is bipolar – and that neighbours had called the police; as a result she had spent nights in the cell in Cambridge, but she needs care. ?He’s a lovely chap and we feel very sorry that trouble upon trouble is laid at his door.

But yes, faith in Jesus is key, John.

Chris

On 30 Jun 21, at 02:54, John Miller via <johnmiller051118@...> wrote:

Things are getting betting. Maybe I could now get a laptop & freelance. I ‘d like to work again, but I’ve seen Chris Barkers face & he looks 10 years younger than me at least. At least we have the same faith in Jesus Christ. It’s been so tough recently
But is still tougher
 

Very sad for the poor man if his wife is behaving like that. Could be a case of dementia and he can't bring himself to put her in care, or maybe can't afford it. ?I remember when my mother in law began having difficulties my sister in law sent for me to travel about 500 miles to sit in with an assessment team because she didn't want to do it -- wanted to pass the responsibility on to someone else. I didn't think really it was my place as a daughter in law but SIL just not coping at the time. It is very sad though when you see someone deteriorating to not being the person you have always known.?

Jude
 

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It must be simply ghastly. ?That sounds like what happened to friends of ours; partners of about 50 years (they were both younger than myself), he turned violent and had to be taken away for care. She died not long after, I’m thinking it was a broken heart.
Best
Susan


On 2 Jul 2021, at 08:47, Judith Hall <glenidol@...> wrote:

Very sad for the poor man if his wife is behaving like that. Could be a case of dementia and he can't bring himself to put her in care, or maybe can't afford it. ?I remember when my mother in law began having difficulties my sister in law sent for me to travel about 500 miles to sit in with an assessment team because she didn't want to do it -- wanted to pass the responsibility on to someone else. I didn't think really it was my place as a daughter in law but SIL just not coping at the time. It is very sad though when you see someone deteriorating to not being the person you have always known.?

Jude

 

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A man who used to be a neighbour and a bright mind got dementia late in life - had been chief pathologist in Hong Kong at one time - did the autopsy on Bruce Leigh. They moved from our area to suburbia and his wife cut them down to one car - hoping to try to dissuade him from driving but unbeknown to her her ordered another car. Finally at 4am one morning a woman knocked on her door and she had hold of her husband — he’d left the house in his pyjamas and had walked a long way and then knocked on this woman’s door and said he was lost. ?Fortunately though on her own the woman took him in and gave him a cuppa and figured where he lived somehow and drove him home.?

I was horrified when I heard because there is a very busy road nearby and I said to his wife now what if he had been killed or worse caused an accident that killed other people in wandering. She shortly after bit the bullet and found him a dementia care place.?

My MIL on one occasion leapt off a bed and put her hands round SIL’s throat whilst in care and several nurses were required to drag her off, and so frightened SIL she never went back for two weeks. ?All you can do is deal the best you can and not lose sight of the person they were.?

Jude




On 2 Jul 2021, at 11:07 pm, Purler <susan.platter@...> wrote:

It must be simply ghastly. ?That sounds like what happened to friends of ours; partners of about 50 years (they were both younger than myself), he turned violent and had to be taken away for care. She died not long after, I’m thinking it was a broken heart.
Best
Susan


On 2 Jul 2021, at 08:47, Judith Hall <glenidol@...> wrote:

Very sad for the poor man if his wife is behaving like that. Could be a case of dementia and he can't bring himself to put her in care, or maybe can't afford it. ?I remember when my mother in law began having difficulties my sister in law sent for me to travel about 500 miles to sit in with an assessment team because she didn't want to do it -- wanted to pass the responsibility on to someone else. I didn't think really it was my place as a daughter in law but SIL just not coping at the time. It is very sad though when you see someone deteriorating to not being the person you have always known.?

Jude


 

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That is so tragic and sad! A good neighbour is worth their weight in gold. ?This awful disease is so painful all round, with family affected and burdened either with the appalling costs of care or with trying to cope. All we get from our “government” is promises and inaction. ?But never mind, it’s Independence Day for some, with fireworks to make up for not being in a war zone. Cynical, moi??
Best
Susan


On 2 Jul 2021, at 16:15, Judith Hall <glenidol@...> wrote:

A man who used to be a neighbour and a bright mind got dementia late in life - had been chief pathologist in Hong Kong at one time - did the autopsy on Bruce Leigh. They moved from our area to suburbia and his wife cut them down to one car - hoping to try to dissuade him from driving but unbeknown to her her ordered another car. Finally at 4am one morning a woman knocked on her door and she had hold of her husband — he’d left the house in his pyjamas and had walked a long way and then knocked on this woman’s door and said he was lost. ?Fortunately though on her own the woman took him in and gave him a cuppa and figured where he lived somehow and drove him home.?

I was horrified when I heard because there is a very busy road nearby and I said to his wife now what if he had been killed or worse caused an accident that killed other people in wandering. She shortly after bit the bullet and found him a dementia care place.?

My MIL on one occasion leapt off a bed and put her hands round SIL’s throat whilst in care and several nurses were required to drag her off, and so frightened SIL she never went back for two weeks. ?All you can do is deal the best you can and not lose sight of the person they were.?

Jude




On 2 Jul 2021, at 11:07 pm, Purler <susan.platter@...> wrote:

It must be simply ghastly. ?That sounds like what happened to friends of ours; partners of about 50 years (they were both younger than myself), he turned violent and had to be taken away for care. She died not long after, I’m thinking it was a broken heart.
Best
Susan


On 2 Jul 2021, at 08:47, Judith Hall <glenidol@...> wrote:

Very sad for the poor man if his wife is behaving like that. Could be a case of dementia and he can't bring himself to put her in care, or maybe can't afford it. ?I remember when my mother in law began having difficulties my sister in law sent for me to travel about 500 miles to sit in with an assessment team because she didn't want to do it -- wanted to pass the responsibility on to someone else. I didn't think really it was my place as a daughter in law but SIL just not coping at the time. It is very sad though when you see someone deteriorating to not being the person you have always known.?

Jude



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