Re: fantasy gaming vs real challenges (was Re: Expensive Ga...
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In a message dated 11/27/2001 11:23:26 AM Pacific Standard Time, SandraDodd@... writes:
Those who would have been happy with failure too seem to have a healthier happiness with success.
So true. How on earth do people get to be okay with failure? I'm not - I know it. I suffered from perfectionism so badly that I really felt it was messing up my life. So I purposely decided to do some things I knew I'd never be really very good at -- I took up an invitation to join a bowling league after discovering I was really terrible at it. And I started trying to be conscious of choosing to just "muddle through" things occasionally.
By the way, it isn't like I'm Martha Stewart ?- I FEEL perfectionistic, but I'm not able to carry it off, by any means. In fact, I screw up pretty badly on many things, but that's because I'm not okay with trying hard and then not being super successful. So my house is a mess because I can't keep it perfect. And so on. I don't have any automatic sense of just doing good enough - I have to make myself be conscious of it.
I can see it in my kids too. I've passed it on. But I don't know how I've done it or how to avoid it.
--pam
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